What does it mean for us to be “in” with a group that we join?  What are the requirements for membership?  Is it that we bring something to the group that it values?  Are we important because of the past credit or the promise of future pleasure?  Is agreement to core ideas and behavior the portal for entry or is solidarity in lifestyle what really matters?  Is belonging an evolved need only after the satisfaction of more base ones?  Does life together exist only in the temporal idea or as universal and even timeless?   Am I more “in” as I am homogeneous or when I am diverse?  What is the importance of a larger narrative that I respond to while living in the temporal social networks created for safety, achievement, pleasure, or for the aesthetics of life together?  In our relationships with our neighbor, or employer, a team member, a spouse or child, what is the essential requirement?  Eric Fromm in the Art of Loving says that to love is to be practitioners of knowing the other, respecting them as they are and can become, responsibility to the relationships asks of us, and to care with depth, breadth and sacrifice.  To be “in” may have lots of different requirements, but worthy leadership of great impact chooses to offer the gift of love when taking on the privilege of joining with others.